I can’t wait. My holiday break from work begins in just a few days! Don’t get me wrong, I love my job. But it’s so nice to take a break from work to sleep in, stay in the warmth of my PJs, and enjoy my coffee at a leisurely pace.
We could all use a break from work. I’ll go a step further and say that you could probably use a break from wedding planning too.
Wedding planning is tough – it takes a lot of work. Even if you’re having a “simple” wedding – it still takes a lot of time and effort to make it happen. It can take over your life if you’re not careful!
The other day I searched Google for some stats about wedding planning stress, but the most interesting information I found was actually in the list of related Google searches:
These are actual searches that people have typed into Google. Yikes.
Even if you haven’t had a complete meltdown about planning your wedding, a break from wedding planning might serve you (and your partner) well.
How to Beat Wedding Planning Stress with Self-Care
Self-care is super trendy right now. In fact, NPR just did a story about how millennials are obsessed with self-care! (First of all, how do they know us so well? Kinda scary, right?)
Honestly, I find a lot of the self-care advice pretty annoying and completely unrealistic.
Have you come across these self-care “morning routines”?
- Wake up the crack of dawn
- Drink lemon water
- Read for an hour
- Meditate for 15 minutes
- Do yoga for another 15 minutes
- Write a dozen pages in my gratitude journal
- And when you’re done, you can start getting ready for work
Is it just me, or is that a little much? Who even has time for all that?
I’ve tried it, and it’s not practical at all. And honestly, it just turns into a long to-do list that stresses me out even more. But I do value self-care, especially as you plan your wedding (and especially over the holidays).
But here’s the thing. As you’ve guessed by now, I’m not going to you 50 different ways to practice self-care – that’s not my style. Instead, I’m keeping it simple and doable – so that you can put it into practice right now.
So here’s the ONE simple thing you can do to practice some self-care this holiday season.
Take the Self-Care Challenge
Ready? Here’s the challenge: take a true break from wedding planning. (I told you it was simple!)
This means, you’ll avoid any and all wedding talk for a day or two or three (or however long you agree with your partner). At the minimum, do it for one day. For that period of time don’t discuss wedding things, don’t do any wedding research, don’t answer any wedding-related emails or phone calls, etc. Don’t do any wedding planning at all.
Whether you’re doing chores, or running errands, staying home or going on a date – whatever you do – avoid any and all wedding talk!
Don’t be fooled. It sounds simple (because it is), but it ain’t easy.
You’re probably thinking, “Of course I can keep myself from wedding planning – where’s the challenge in that?!”
Sounds Easy. What makes this challenging?
First, if you have time off from work, you might be tempted to use that extra time to get stuff done for your wedding. But I challenge you to give yourself (and your partner) a break instead. You’ve probably already made plans to knock some stuff off from your to-do list during the holiday break. You can still do that, of course, but take at least one full day to take a break from it . Your to-do list will still be there.
Second, you’ll need to get your partner on board. If your partner has no idea that you’re trying to take a wedding planning break, you can bet that you’ll get sucked into a full-on wedding planning conversation before you know it. Even a quick wedding-related question can quickly turn into something bigger. So get your partner on board and keep each other accountable.
Third, if you’re celebrating the holidays with family, it’s almost guaranteed that someone will ask about how the wedding planning is going. And depending on who’s asking the conversation can go from a quick question to an hour-long conversation about your wedding, complete with unsolicited advice and strong opinions.
You know you’re going to get questions from family about your wedding, so have a plan. Think of a few ways to respond to change the subject. One way to do this is to ask about their wedding. This works every time because people love talking about themselves. Plus, you’ll get to learn more about them and their big day – and it’s a great way to connect with them. And that’s what the holidays are all about 🙂
I hope you practice some self-care this holiday season – it’s good for you, and you deserve it 🙂
I wish you, your future spouse, and your families a happy holiday season!